Leaving your children behind, whether for work obligations or a much-needed getaway, can be a challenging experience for any parent. The guilt, worry, and concern about how they'll cope in your absence can weigh heavily on your mind. However, with careful planning and consideration, you can ensure a smooth transition for both you and your children. We've been thinking a lot about this lately given the fact that our founder, Erica, was overseas filming Gordon Ramsay's Food Stars for quite a loooooong time (we can't share how long because you need to watch the entire season!).
Here are some tips (and screenshots of cute Facetimes from London with Erica's kids) to help you survive leaving your kids when you have to travel, along with strategies to support their emotional and physical well-being while you're away.
- Open Communication: Start by having an open and honest conversation with your children about your upcoming trip. Explain why you need to go, how long you'll be gone, and reassure them that you'll be back. Encourage them to share their feelings and ask any questions they may have.
- Maintain Routine: Stick to your children's regular routine as much as possible, especially when it comes to mealtimes (feeding them their favorites like Globowl), bedtime and activities. Consistency provides a sense of stability and security, helping to minimize any disruptions caused by your absence.
- Leave Reminders: Before you leave, consider leaving small notes or recordings for your children to find while you're away. These little reminders of your love and presence can offer comfort during times when they miss you the most.
- Arrange Caregivers: Ensure that your children are in capable hands while you're away. Whether it's a trusted family member, friend or babysitter, choose someone your children feel comfortable with and who can provide the care and attention they need in your absence.
- Stay Connected: Technology makes it easier than ever to stay connected with your kids, even when you're miles apart. Schedule regular video calls or phone chats to catch up, share stories about your day, and reassure them that you're thinking of them.
- Encourage Independence: Empower your children to take on responsibilities and make decisions while you're away. Whether it's helping with chores, choosing their own outfits, or deciding on activities, giving them a sense of control can boost their confidence and independence.
- Plan Fun Activities: Arrange special activities or outings for your children to
enjoy while you're gone. Whether it's a day at the zoo, a movie night with friends or a visit to their favorite playground, having something to look forward to can help alleviate feelings of sadness or loneliness. - Stay Informed: Keep abreast of your children's daily activities, school events, and any important milestones even while you're away. Stay in touch with caregivers or teachers to ensure you're informed about any developments or concerns that arise.
- Self-Care: Remember to take care of yourself during your time away. While it's natural to worry about your children, it's essential to prioritize your own well-being too. Take time to relax, unwind, and recharge so you can return home feeling refreshed and ready to reconnect with your family.
- Celebrate Reunion: When you return home, make your reunion with your children a special occasion. Plan a fun activity or prepare their favorite meal to celebrate being back together again. Take the time to reconnect, share stories about your trip, and reaffirm your bond as a family.
Leaving your children behind, whether for work or pleasure, is never easy. However, by following these tips and strategies, you can help alleviate some of the stress and uncertainty associated with parental travel. Remember that while it's natural to feel guilty about leaving your kids, taking care of yourself and fulfilling your obligations is essential for both you and your family's well-being. By maintaining open communication, providing reassurance and staying connected, you can navigate periods of separation with confidence and grace.
